Comments on: Felix Dennis on Courtesy http://www.thegogiver.com/blog/2008/07/18/felix-dennis-on-courtesy/ A Little Story About A Powerful Business Idea Fri, 06 Jan 2012 09:07:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: David Palmisano http://www.thegogiver.com/blog/2008/07/18/felix-dennis-on-courtesy/comment-page-1/#comment-89 David Palmisano Fri, 18 Jul 2008 17:53:06 +0000 http://www.thegogiver.com/blog/?p=35#comment-89 I think it's about intention. If you intend (consciously or unconsciously) to be a doormat for other people, you will. Having a clear mental image of who you want to be, I think, is the prerequisite to being nice and successful. I mentioned this in another comment, but I learned more about psychology and human communication from your book Winning Without Intimidation than anything else. The trust you, know you, like you feelings are what create the abundance of support from other people. And we can't really be successful in anything without the support of other people. Since everyone has an ego, it's probably the best route not to compete with other people's egos. That's where positive persuasion helps a lot, helping the other person feel good about helping you. And you feel good too. It's an interesting way to tap into natural, magical abundance. I think it’s about intention. If you intend (consciously or unconsciously) to be a doormat for other people, you will. Having a clear mental image of who you want to be, I think, is the prerequisite to being nice and successful.

I mentioned this in another comment, but I learned more about psychology and human communication from your book Winning Without Intimidation than anything else. The trust you, know you, like you feelings are what create the abundance of support from other people. And we can’t really be successful in anything without the support of other people.

Since everyone has an ego, it’s probably the best route not to compete with other people’s egos. That’s where positive persuasion helps a lot, helping the other person feel good about helping you. And you feel good too. It’s an interesting way to tap into natural, magical abundance.

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